"Better to happen to you, than to me."
Who the fuck says that?
Certainly one might say "better you than me" when speaking to someone who got stuck having to stop for gas in the rain, or who has to deal with some dipshit for just a bit.
But to look at your spouse when they are in physical pain and say, "better to happen to you, than to me," is just a fucked up thing.
Of course I've done plenty of fucked up things so I can hardly judge anyone else.
But I can't help but be hurt.